Stages of Grief
- Denial: Confused or stunned, unwilling to accept the loss.
- Anger: Hopeless, resentful, or furious.
- Bargaining: "What if" or "if only" statements, attempting to alter or trade the loss.
- Depression: Dr. Crab refers to it as "weary, empty sadness," isolated, or hopeless in relation to the loss, something tangible.
- Acceptance: Acclimating to the loss and being able to exist without the situation or individual.
Types of Grief
- Anticipatory Grief: Felt prior to anticipated loss, e.g., when a person has been given a diagnosis of a terminal condition.
- Complicated Grief: Intractable grief that interferes with daily life, preventing additional adjustment.
- Disenfranchised Grief: Loss that the broader society does not acknowledge as a loss, i.e., death of a beloved pet or miscarriage.
- Cumulative Grief: The Cumulative impact of enduring successive losses within a short period, resulting in agonizing emotional suffering.
- Collective Grief: Collective reaction to mourning caused by widespread disasters like natural catastrophes or epidemics that have spread globally.
- Delayed Grief: Denial of grief that shows much later than the time the loss has happened, but is usually accompanied by something or brought on through a reminder.
Symptoms and Causes of Grief
- Emotional symptoms: Bitter sadness, remorse, indignation, puzzlement, alteration of mood, withdrawal.
- Physical symptoms: Exhaustion, headache, sore muscles, shift in appetite, gastrointestinal upset.
- Symptoms of grief: Inability to concentrate, sleep disturbance, staying away from being near reminders of grief, and withdrawal.
Grief vs. Depression: Main Differences
- Grief is typically the aftermath of loss and occurs in waves with relief or good ones in between, while depression is steady and typically without apparent reason.
- Self-worth is typically maintained in grief, but in depression, worthlessness and self-loathing are typically present.
- Mounting permits glimpses of happiness, whereas depression seems to be all-inclusive and relentless.
How Long Does Grief Last?
Physical Symptoms of Grief
- Insomnia or hypersomnia
- Muscle tension and headache
- Appetite and weight loss
- The immune system is impaired
- Shortness of breath or feeling pressure over the chest
- Nausea and dizziness
Emotional Outcome of Grief
- Regret and guilt of the unsaid and undone
- Panic attack or panic
- Loneliness and desperation
- Feeling numb or withdrawal from feelings
- Inability to experience pleasure in life events
Grief Therapy and Counseling Approaches
- Individual Therapy: Private one-to-one session with a professional counsellor.
- Support Groups: Counseling with people who have gone through the same kind of loss.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Dealing with negative thoughts and feelings.
- Expressive Therapy: Expression through creative activities like writing, painting, or music therapy.
Consoling Someone Mourning
- Listen and let them talk freely.
- Provide useful help such as cooking meals, grocery shopping, or washing clothes.
- Suggest professional counseling when necessary.
- Empathize and understand since grief is constant.
Relationship of Grief and Mental Health
Grief After the Death of a Loved One
- Brainstorming a memory book or scrapbook
- Participation in a cause or charity dear to the deceased individual
- Express thoughts and feelings
Effect of Unresolved Mourning
- Depression or sadness that is not temporary
- Difficulty in maintaining relationships
- Addiction to drugs or risk-taking behavior
- Curable disease resulting from tension
Management of grief and the ability to alleviate stress
- Exercise regularly to release endorphins and reduce stress levels.
- Remain present and meditate to psychically connect yourself.
- Engage in creative activities such as writing, painting, or playing a musical instrument.
- Go for a walk to recover and unwind.
- Find comfort in friends, family, or grief support groups.
The Therapeutic Role of Rituals in Grief
- Having rituals of remembrance for the dead
- Writing letters to sort out thoughts and feelings
- Burning candles in remembrance of the dead
- Going to where there are memories that matter
Conclusion